If you're anything like me, Monday soon turns into Sunday and you look back at the week and question "what the heck did I get done this week?" And your Sunday night conversation sounds a little like a locker room pep talk where the coach is pumping up the team to get out there and go get 'em!
If it doesn't and you have ticks next to every item on your do-to list consistently every week, then you might not want to continue reading. If the top item on your to-do list is to create a to-do list, then maybe you can relate to this post a bit more.
When my son was younger, I came across this meme on the internet somewhere and it struck such a chord with me that I printed it out right away and posted it on my refrigerator. I'm sure you've seen it on Pinterest or Facebook:
The problem was that while I, on some levels, could completely get behind this idea, I still caught myself getting down on myself for not doing enough. I'm a mostly stay at home/work part-time mom, so shouldn't I be cleaning, shopping for groceries, having dinner ready, engaging with my son all day, working out and eating well every day?
With that laundry list (ugh! forgot to add laundry to the to-do list!) of things to accomplish every day, I would get overwhelmed and just not do anything on it. When I asked myself what I did that day, I didn't have an answer. Then I would feel guilty and get down again. It wasn't working for me.
My husband and I follow a gentle approach to parenting. Empathy is at the core of our interactions with our son. Yet, I am far from gentle with myself sometimes, especially when it comes to getting things done. I am working on being kinder to myself and have a little more compassion. It doesn't mean that I am not going to keep working on goals and getting things done, but I am going to forgive myself for not being super mom every day. I can guarantee you that my son already thinks I am (despite the flaws he doesn't know about yet), and that is pretty awesome.
It's OK to cut myself some slack and show myself the same kindness that I give to those around me. I'm reminded of something someone said in one of my parent groups on Facebook (I'm paraphrasing):
"Be kind to your son's mom. She's a nice lady."
You are, too.